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How to Make Meditation a Part of Your Daily Habit

Published On: September 9, 2020

Categories: Wellness

We’ve talked about learning what mindfulness is,  how to meditate, and the first steps to take in your practice. Now it’s time to talk more about making it part of your daily practice so that it becomes a habit.

How to make Meditating Part of your Daily Routine

For me, I like to meditate first thing in the morning. I start my day off with my breakfast and a little reading and then I head to my meditation space. Easing into my day helps me to feel like it’s getting off to a good start.

Ending the day with a meditation is also a good choice. Especially if you sometimes have trouble falling asleep. A lying down meditation can help you get to the dreamy, sleeplike state that makes drifting off a little easier.

In times of stress, I pull up a cushion/chair or whatever and spend some time meditating whenever and wherever it feels needed.

The time of day ultimately doesn’t matter. What matters is making it a part of your routine. This way it becomes a tool that you can turn to in times of stress or overwhelm to help you to feel more at ease.

6 Tips for Creating a Daily Meditation Habit

  1. Find a suitable place for your regular meditation. Somewhere with minimal disturbance . Arrange a spot that feels like a peaceful space. I have a corner of my sunroom that I like to meditate in. I have a blanket on the floor and my kneeler sits on top of it so that I am always ready to go.
  2. Establish a regular time to practice that suits your schedule and mood. As I shared, I like to meditate in the morning but if your morning feel a little hectic already start at another time of the day. Begin with shorter practices and as your practice grows you can sit for longer and more frequently.
  3. Find a posture where you can easily sit upright without being stiff or rigid. You can sit on a cushion or chair. I like to kneel down so I use a kneeler but having a cushion in-between your knees will also work. Let your body be planted firmly, your hands resting easily in your lap, your heart soft and your eyes closed or resting gently. Let go of any thoughts or plans during your meditation.
  4. Bring your attention to the sensations of the breath. Take a few breaths to sense into where you feel the breath the strongest in the body. Maybe as a coolness or tingling in the nostrils or throat, as movement of the chest, or the rising and falling of the belly. Let your breath be natural, relax into each breath noticing the sensations that come and go with the changing breath. 
  5. After a few breaths your mind will probably wander. Happens to the best of us ;) Whenever you notice the mind wandering simply come back to the next breath. 
  6. As you sit, let the breath change rhythms naturally. There is no need to alter it in any way. Allow it to be short, long, fast, slow or easy. Calm yourself by relaxing into the breath. Let your attention become gentle and as soft as the breath itself. 

If you are just starting out, shorter practices are great for easing you in. That’s why I created this 7 day mindfulness challenge full of short and easy practice. Each day you will receive a new practice that can be done in 10 minutes or less. Did I mention that it’s $0?!? Click here to sign up and learn more about it.

With these 6 tips you can start to put together your own practice and start to make meditation a daily habit.

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Charlene Gethons

Hey there, I'm Charlene!

I help creative entrepreneurs with chronic illness create a sustainable business that fits their lifestyle without letting imposter syndrome take over.

Charlene is an entrepreneur, psychotherapist and mindfulness coach living with chronic illness after she was hit by a bus.

August brought with it a lot of firsts and some new adventures...
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✨ first time traveling since my surgeries
✨ first time visiting Ireland since we lost Dad
✨ first time my youngest niblings came for a sleepover - and a “double sleepover” (2 nights) at that!
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Changing the environment or your routine can help on the healing journey. 
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💕It can help you to be present in this moment. 
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💕To practice curiosity. 
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💕And to get out of your comfort zone. 
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All parts of a mindfulness meditation practice. 
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Mindfulness has been the #1 thing that has helped me to heal my anxiety and to help me navigate my new & challenging path. 
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Moment by moment. Breathe by breath. 
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Join me now inside my 7 day free mindfulness challenge to learn how to quickly calm your mind. 
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Click the link in my bio to sign up today. 💕🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♀️
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She likes to read a few chapters in bed as part of her settling routine. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I just like to read. Haha. I can curl up with a book for hours and be perfectly pleasant. I do not bring a book into bed with me because it will just lead to me being up all night until I finish it. 😳⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“Just one more chapter.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I’ll put it down at the end of this chapter.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“Just a little bit more and then I’ll put it down.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“Well, there’s only one chapter left, I might as well finish it.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🎶It’s me, hi, I’m the problem it’s me. 🎶⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👆🏻 a true story that has happened more times than I care to admit. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Which is why I don’t bring a book into bed with me. 😆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Growing up, I always carried a book with me. I still remember sitting in class, pulling a book out and hiding it in my lap to read during lessons. Oops. 😳⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🚗 trips? I'd be in the backseat with a book reading by the light of the streetlamp. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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✈️ ride? I'd have a book with me on the plane and a few more in my suitcase. I no longer travel with physical copies of books - only ebooks - to save room for souvenirs. 😉⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I love to read. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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While my mom and I differ on our reading styles, the one thing we can both agree on is that we love a good romance novel and anything by Kate Morton. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In fact the only time my mom has struggled to put down a book is if it's by Kate Morton. We both had a couple of late nights recently reading her newest novel Homecoming. It was too good, I highly recommend it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What are you currently reading? Let me know in the comments below 👇👇
Life lately. Good friends, good food, and a cute puppy. 🥰👯‍♀️🍕🐶🌺
The 4 things your body needs you to do to heal.
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These are all strategies that I use regularly and that I’ve taught my clients/students over the years. 
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They are all proven strategies and skills that work when our bodies are in distress. 
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level 1 - mild, some distress, feel like you can manage it, and move your way through it with some assistance. Take a deep breath and bring your attention back to whatever you’ve been doing. So, if I notice distress as I’m writing an IG caption, I take a breath, notice where it is in my body and gently guide my awareness back to the task. 
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Level 2 - put my hand on my sternum, take several breaths, and remind myself I’m safe
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Level 3 - can’t focus so I distract myself with something that doesn’t require too much thinking - like baking, organizing some papers, or cleaning up my room. 
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Level 4 - get up and move. This is a distress tolerance skill that I teach inside my programs. It’s quick, it’s intense and it works. It’s one (of several) skills that can help your body quickly regulate itself. 
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Mindfulness helps me to recognize what level I am at and to remember to use the skill that matches it. 
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Somedays, I can start at a level one and then quickly move straight to a level 4. 
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Somedays I can be at a 0 and then boom, I’m a level 4 and I need to grab my shoes and go. 
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Mindfulness not only helps me to recognize what level I’m at and what strategy I need but it also helps me to not mentally beat myself up for not being further ahead on this healing journey. 
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To give myself and my body all the time it needs to heal.
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Now it’s your turn to do the same. You can get started working with me, and learning how to use mindfulness to heal by signing up for my free challenge in the link in my bio.
How to recognize if it’s a bear or a mouse...
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Sometimes on our healing journey we see bears when really it’s a mouse. 
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I teach this to my students as The Lion vs The Mouse. 
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This parable is a reminder that sometimes our trauma and anxiety continues to see lions even when everything’s fine. 
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Especially when that trauma is related to our health. 
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Every little sensation can trigger a reaction and send you into fight or flight. 
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With my history of scars not healing and leading to more surgery it’s no wonder that this time around I was hyper vigilant with my scar. 
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But this vigilance, might feel helpful, it isn’t always. 
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My vigilance, trauma, and anxiety resulted in several panic attacks as my scar healed. 
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Even after getting the “all clear” from FOUR doctors my trauma continued to tell me that something was wrong and that I was in danger. 
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My eyes knew that it was healing but my vigilant part was too scared from past experience to let down its guard and relax. 
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So this is the deep inner healing work that I’ve been engaged with this year. 
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In my next video I dive deeper into exactly what I have been doing to regulate my nervous system each time my trauma response shows up. 
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Healing can happen, it just takes (a lot of) time. 
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Mindfulness helps me to remember to be compassionate towards all of my parts in these moments. To take care of the scared and vigilant parts. To thank them for their service and to gently remind them that they are not needed now. 
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To breathe deep, and to return to this moment.
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Stayed tuned for Friday’s video where I will share the 4 different strategies that you can use when that mouse shows up but it feels like a lion.
I’ve felt like I’ve been chased by a bear for the last 3 years.
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That’s what trauma can feel like. 
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And after being in survival mode for sooo long it can be hard for our body to recognize that it’s safe. 
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While logically, I know that everything is fine, my nervous system hasn’t got the memo. 
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I’ll be working on a puzzle in the kitchen, and out of nowhere I’ll feel like if I don’t get out of here I’m going to jump out of my skin. 
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Like if I could physically leave my body, I would.
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And this is coming from a trauma-informed psychotherapist with over 10 years in the mental health field. 
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Healing trauma takes time. 
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Our bodies need to learn that it’s okay and that they can stop being vigilant all the time. 
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That your parts that have been keeping watch can let down their guard. 
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It will take time. There will be some resistance. 
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Which is where mindfulness comes in. It helps me to recognize when my vigilant parts have come online so that I can talk to them, thank them for their service and remind them that they are safe.
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As many times as they need the reminder. 
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It’s a journey and one that I am mindfully taking. 😉
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It’s hard work but it’s necessary work. It’s all part of the healing process. 
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This is how I am healing my trauma. Moment by moment. Breath by breath. 💕🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♀️
My mom couldn’t believe what had just happened, “I almost fell off my chair". 
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We were in Florida for one of my mindfulness trainings around my moms birthday so I took her on a Jungle River Cruise showboat. 
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I had never been on one of these before so I didn't realize that we all ate together at huge picnic tables as a way to make it more communal & sociable - this would have been my worst nightmare before. 
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But not anymore. 
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We sat down beside each other, got our meals, chatted a bit & then I turned to the person beside me, introduced myself and struck up a brief conversation. 
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And my mother almost fell off her chair!
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She couldn’t believe it. She told me afterwards that she thought to herself: “who is this and where is my daughter!” 
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Because she knew how shy I had always been. How speaking to even family members that I hadn’t seen in awhile would trigger my anxiety. And here I was speaking to a complete stranger by my own volition. 
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Learning mindfulness honestly turned me into a new woman. 
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It taught me how to get out of my head and into my life. 
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To stop overthinking and second guessing everything. 
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To stop worrying all the time about what someone else might be thinking about me. 
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To stop judging myself all. The. Time. 
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To just be. 
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Life changing. 
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All thanks to mindfulness. 
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I learned how to heal my anxiety. To heal my burnout. To navigate extremely tough and challenging situations. To get out of my head & into my life. 
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It is my goal in life to help you to learn how to do the same. 
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Which is why I created my FREE 7 day challenge (link in bio) to help you learn how to quiet the noise & quickly calm your mind in under 10 minutes.
This morning, slow down and take a moment with your cup of coffee. ☕️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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✨ Slowly take a sip and notice all the flavours you can taste. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Slow down, breathe in, and be in this moment. 💕🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♀️
🎶🎶 It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me 🎶🎶​​​​​​​​​
Hello, it is I, Charlene, chronic overthinker and the source of most of my anxiety. 

And this was before I was hit by a bus. 

Over the years I missed out on a lot of opportunities because I was so in my head worrying and overthinking everything. 

The amount of "what ifs" that would run through my head in a day over something that might NEVER happen was too many to count. 

I would worry that I would say something "stupid" in front of my classmates, colleagues or friends. So instead I wouldn't say anything. 

This held me back in so many ways over the years. 

And then I was hit by a bus, my anxiety went through the roof, and in an effort to manage it, I learned mindfulness meditation. 

Suddenly, my anxiety was under control, I could TALK to people, and I stopped living in my head. 

I learned how to get out of my head and into my life. 

Now, I am on a journey to help 1000 individuals to learn how they to can use mindfulness meditation to heal their anxiety and get out of their heads. 

You can get started with me, right now, for $0, with my 7 day mindfulness meditation challenge. 

Inside this challenge you will learn how to quickly calm your mind in just 10 minutes a day. 

Click the link in my bio to get join me. 💕🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♀️
Here's to 42!! Thank you so much everyone for all the birthday wishes!!🥰🥰
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I had a great day celebrating with family over a delicious BBQ prepared by my mom and big brother. 
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I was a little spoiled this year as I also had a surprise celebration a week early with some of my extended family. 
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The past few years have been tough to say the least so it was extra important to take the time to celebrate. Here's to a new year full of good health! 🎉🥳